Putting Mom Last: The Worst Lie We Tell Ourselves

By Andrea Franklin / February 22, 2019 /

Six years ago, on the cusp of new motherhood, I was eager to learn anything and everything I could about what I should expect out of this whole parenting gig. I turned to blogs, articles, and the occasional book—though I tried to avoid most of those because they overwhelmed me with things like, “what to…

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Be Careful What You Wear For Valentine’s Day. It Just Might Destroy The World

By Andrea Franklin / February 8, 2019 /

Let’s talk, lingerie. I know there are varying opinions on those delicate, sometimes dominant articles of night-time wear, but I love it. To me, lingerie is expressive and flirty and fun, and it makes me feel sexy when I find intimate attire that fits well and flatters my figure. The wide variety of styles, colors, materials,…

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I Am Hungry And Tired: The Truth About Modern Day Diet Culture And The Obsessive Desire To “Look Good In A Bikini”

By Andrea Franklin / January 31, 2019 /

I’ve let my weight, pant size, and ab definition determine my worth for as long as I can remember. Some may lie awake at night thinking of ways to organize, or planning for their day, or watching porn—but, me? I’ve spent hours combing the internet for “before and after photos” of other women with similar…

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Confessions Of An Aching Heart

By Andrea Franklin / January 9, 2019 /

I’m slipping. Slipping and sliding more than a seven-year-old in the summer sun. I can’t seem to get my footing right, and I’m starting to wonder if it’s just easier to stay face first in the pooled up water. I’m tired. Dog-tired. Bone-tired. Dead-tired. Used up. Drained out. Spent. My eyelids are like two arms…

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It Is Time To Get Off The Battlefield And Forgive Your Enemies Already

By Andrea Franklin / December 28, 2018 /

I spent 23 years on an empty battlefield. Ammo loaded, gun cocked, waiting patiently and obsessively for my enemy to arrive on the top of the ridge. Winter after winter came, still no foe in sight. Bones chilled, fingers frozen to my weapon—standing my ground. Sure that when they arrived, I would be ready to…

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I Am Fine, Really: Breaking The Stigma Around Getting Help

By Andrea Franklin / December 12, 2018 /

I saw my first therapist at age 17 after my parents and I made a deal: They wouldn’t press me to confront my rapist in an open courtroom if I agreed to go talk to a professional about what I had experienced. I wasn’t thrilled, but the alternative felt far more terrifying, so I went.…

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An Open Letter To Anyone Who Told Me My Kid Would One Day Become A Good Sleeper

By Andrea Franklin / December 6, 2018 /

I’ll never forget when I was a brand new mom with this sweet squishy baby to love who fit in the creases of my arms and basked in my body heat. It was a magical time filled with a 32 oz. coffee minimum, uncontrollable crying (from both of us), and extreme sleep deprivation. Sure, I…

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When Grief And Joy Collide

By Andrea Franklin / November 26, 2018 /

It starts with a rumble. A deep stirring within your blood that bubbles and boils and cools, all at once—the makings of smooth, sticky caramel chews. The makings of you. A liquid until it cools and forms, a solid until it melts on the tongue. Not quite hard yet not exactly soft either. A candy stuck…

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The Ugly Truth About What Can Happen To Your Marriage After You Have Children

By Andrea Franklin / November 19, 2018 /

There is an ancient wise saying that has been around long before our time. The cavemen carved it next to mammoths and dinosaurs, the Egyptians decorated their golden tombs with its wisdom, the fifth graders chanted it at recess when two kids got caught awkwardly holding hands, Pinterest glorified it with adorable vintage rockers and…

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No Title Can Explain This

By Andrea Franklin / October 30, 2018 /

*This was written on 10/10/18, the day my beautiful friend, my sister, died.* It is World Mental Health Day and my heartbeat is pulsing so heavily in my skull that it feels like my veins could rip out of my head at any moment. There’s an emptiness in my chest that feels as if I…

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